How to win back lost love - Getting back together after a break up

If you are reading this, you probably fall in one of the next three examples;
One - you’ve been dumped
Two - you regret a mutually agreed break up
Three - you dumped your girlfriend/boyfriend and you’ve been regretting it ever since.

The good news for you is that most break ups can be undone, or to put to it differently, you can win back a lost love. But before we discuss how to win your ex back, as crazy as it sounds, we must assess whether this is the best course of action for you. Please take the time to answer the questions below.

Has it been over a year since your break up?
Did your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend cheat on you? (Was unfaithfulness the main reason for the break up?)
Did you cheat on your ex?
Is your ex now engaged or married to someone else?
Has she/he threatened you with a restraining order?

If you’ve answered yes to any of the questions above, you have to seriously reconsider going after your ex, even if you feel that he or she is the love of your life. You can skip the blue text below if none of the above questions are relevant to your situation.

First, if it’s been more than a year since your break up, chances are your ex has moved on long ago and your chance to get back with your ex is pretty slim.

Second, if your ex cheated on you and you broke up or you have been dumped as a result, it is more than likely that your trust level for your ex will never recover to the “pre-cheat” level.

Third, the same applies if you’ve cheated on your ex. He or she will never be the same again.

Fourth, if your ex is now engaged or married, perhaps rather than trying to win your ex back, maybe it’s time you learn to be happy for him or her.

And lastly, it is really time to back off if your ex, who once deeply cared about you, has now threatened to put a restraining order on you. 

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s continue discussing how to win back the love of your life. The first and the most crucial thing you must do is to cut off contact with your ex. However, I must point out that there is a right and a wrong way of achieving this. If you’ve been constantly pestering your ex with phone calls, texts, and emails, it is rather effective to end contact with no warning at all. On the other hand, if you have not been contacting your ex or if you kept contact to a minimum, you should make that one last phone call (or text) to let him or her know that you will stop bothering them.

Be sure to make your message concise and do not engage in any unnecessary conversation. Say your thanks, apologize, or anything you must say in as few words as possible, and let him or her know that you will not be contacting them again so you can make efforts to move on with your life. It is very important that you live up to your words and don’t contact your ex until the best time.

The second on the to-do list is to analyze the reason for your break up. For the sake of argument, let’s assume for a second that your ex boyfriend/girlfriend wants you back. The problem is that even if something this miraculous happens to you, without knowing exactly what led your break up originally, she/he will end up dumping you again soon enough. If you are going to spend all that time and effort to win your ex back, then you better make sure she or he will not leave you this time.

Thirdly, either make some improvements to your looks or make some dramatic changes from your same boring looks. This is not shallow. It never hurts to look good when in a relationship or when you are seeking a new relationship. The fact is, most people who get dumped (most of you reading this probably were) are guilty of “letting themselves go” because they felt safe in a steady relationship. This does attribute to slowly breaking up a relationship and you only have yourself to blame for it. It’s not your ex’s fault that he or she is not attracted to you when you are overweight by 30 pounds or if you wear the same clothes year round. If you are overweight, lose those extra pounds. And if you have selection of two wardrobes, winter and summer, then seek fashion advice from family and friends who are good dressers.

The three steps above will put you on the right path. Next, watch this 10 minute long video explaining the critical elements to winning back a lost love. Click here for the video. It's a professional ex back system developed by a relationship consultant and I highly recommend you watch this video preview. For the gentlemen, I've found an additional source for some great articles on getting an ex girlfriend back. Visit How To Get My Girlfriend Back.